Last week I saw a client, Nell, who was in a real state. Her job was on the brink as another reorganisation was announced. Should she take redundancy and enjoy a sabbatical?
Her partner wasn’t well and they were waiting for the diagnosis. What if he became wheelchair bound and couldn’t run his own business anymore?
Nell’s daughter studied abroad and was quite homesick. Maybe she couldn’t finish her studies and that would ruin her career perspective.
And lastly, the dog drove her mad as he was barking through the night, trying to scare off a few amorous foxes. She couldn’t get any sleep.
After this avalanche of stressful situations I took a deep breath and asked Nell to do the same.
And then we talked. I pointed out to Nell that three of her worries were all fantasies. Not happened yet and possibly not going to happen at all: job, illness and daughter’s future. It was quite useless to spend energy on these, at this moment in time. And I asked her to dump that stuff, each one in its own container. The only thing that was more or less in her control was the dog and she agreed that it made sense to look into a solution for that.
Like Nell, we can get carried away when we are faced with a number of uncertainties and stressful situations. When they muddle up, it becomes impossible to see the wood for the trees and we feel overwhelmed, stressed out and emotionally unbalanced. However, separating the situations and keeping them in their own container is the best way to stay in control of your emotions. Open a container when you need to, and close it before you open the next one.
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