Child leaves home, leaving mum feeling lost
‘My child is gone and I am losing it’. But exactly what is she losing? Recently I met Jaqui in my coaching room. She came in feeling wobbl and she admitted that since mid August she didn’t feel herself. She was dreading September, the month her DD (darling daughter)...
How to ignite your confidence engine
Whatever has been written and spoken about around this topic, there is only one essential thought that makes the difference. As Mike Dooley says in all his communications ‘thoughts become things’ and that is very true for confidence. Confidence is a state of mind, a...
What type of control freak are you?
I want some control in my life and I guess that is what you want to. Control gives a sense of security, takes out unexpected surprises and keeps you calmer. As with anything that we do, it depends on how far you go to stay in control. Being well-organized and getting...
Three big lessons, taught by little Mollie – Mollie’s Mindful Musings
Mollie is my DD (darling daughter). I am not her biological mother. That would be impossible as Mollie is a different breed: a Jackapoo – a dog crossbreed of a Jack Russell and a poodle. She came into my life about 3 years ago and helps the hormonal balance in our...
Why I hate meeting a perfectionist
Perfectionism, what is there to say? A lot of people, especially women, thrive to be perfect. The perfect mum, colleague, friend, housewife, partner, organiser, planner and more. The ones who are successful and really come across as perfect might attract some...
What to do when you are pissed off with your partner
Renee was pissed off and massively annoyed with her partner and couldn’t stop telling me about his behaviour. How he never seemed to listen, how he made the house a mess, how he was pre-occupied with work, how the only thing he did during a dinner party was...
The 7 most stressful challenges for work-life balance
When talking about work-life balance, we usually mean imbalance. Work-life balance as a term was first mentioned in the UK at the end of the 1970s, in the US it popped up in 1986. Work-life balance What we mean by work seems quite obvious. What we mean by...
Mariette Jansen’s life story: how I got where I am today….
Hiya, this is all about Mariette Jansen and how I got where I am today.... and I am still on my journey. Will I ever arrive? It has been tough and challenging at times. My wish is to offer you hope that life can change and the belief that you have to power to change...
What is killing the superwoman?
Any superwoman I have ever met has worked so hard at being super, that she completely exhausted herself. Physically she is tired as her body didn’t got enough rest for donkeys years, mentally she is low, maybe bordering on depression, as the production of adrenaline...
How to recognise psychological manipulation
Psychologically manipulative behaviors Manipulation is controlling something or someone to your advantage. Manipulators are people who will use whatever it takes to get what they want. It doesn’t matter that it is at the expense of others, that they twist the truth,...
Willpower reflects a negative mindset
Follow my blog with Bloglovin Willpower is an aptitude Willpower is the ability to make a choice that is in line with a decision you have made. Example: the decision to lose weight means you have to make choices to eat certain foods and avoid others. The decision to...
How an internal or external frame of reference impacts your ability to make decisions
Decision making ability Follow my blog with Bloglovin When you make a clear decision, you are visible. When you are visible, you can be vulnerable. Especially when it matters to you what others think of you. If that applies to you, you have an external frame of...
7 situations to avoid if you want to rely on willpower
Follow my blog with Bloglovin Is willpower the key to success? Not sure about that, but if you want to be successful there will be times when you have to make a choice that requires willpower, a choice that puts you in the direction of success instead of failure. This...
Trusting your willpower to be successful won’t get you far
Follow this blog on bloglovin Willpower is not the road to success, unless you drink lemonade, are in therapy and watch comedies. Willpower suggests war. The word alone oozes aggression and I can’t say it while smiling. Try it for yourself. Willpower is an reflection...
Tips to stay in control when the shxx hits the fan
Follow my blog with Bloglovin I love the saying ‘life gets in the way’ or ‘we plan and life is doing what is wants, anyway’. We all know the feeling when one thing after another seems to happen and before you know it, you feel totally out of control, emotionally out...
London Marathon – when the runner has to watch it…..
The last 2 weeks I met 3 people who trained for the marathon and might not be able to do it, due to a foot, ankle or hip injury. Needless to say how very upset all three are by the prospect of not doing the run of their life, this coming Sunday. It made me think of...
7 steps to stop emotional eating
We all have these days when nothing goes our way: client is not happy, date is cancelled, weather is grey, hormones are playing up and it leaves you feeling low, deprived, restless. But there is a glimmer on the horizon: the glimmer of the biscuit tin, the chocolate...
7 signs you are developing an eating disorder
Do you start new diets all the time? Are you not happy with your body? Do you wonder if your behaviour around food is ‘normal’? Is food and weight loss a big thing in your life? These questions can all point towards the development of an eating disorder. As an...
I am going to be a billionaire
When you have developed and integrated confidence it becomes an integral part of who you are. It’s a feeling that has nestled itself into your system and it contributes to a solid foundation of your sense of self. This innate confidence might get a wobble (as Ruby Wax...
The 10 secrets of a confident mindset
The mindset of a confident person is positive, open minded, non-judgmental of self and trusting. But how to get there? And how to keep on top of that mindset? Confidence is a state of being that needs working all the time. Even the most confident people have wobbles,...
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