How to say no and build your confidence
Having the Confidence to Say No If you can’t say no, using the excuse that ‘that is just who you are’, you might be just running away from confrontations or feeling fear for being judged by other people. Both situations reflect a low level of confidence and...
The importance of rowing your own boat and leading your own life.
Make your own life choices Above all, Have you ever wondered how much are you influenced by others or by ideas that you picked up along the way? Have you been limited by it or empowered? ‘Grace is lovely’ ‘It's so nice’ ‘Grace is so easy’ Grace was always on the...
How high performers take confidently control
Living life on autopilot Do you fly through your days? No time to think or make decisions? Action after action? Living life on autopilot Vera was a busy bee. One of these ladies you would phone if something needed to happen. ‘Ask a busy person and it will get done.’...
How to make the right decision with confidence?
Self confidence in decision making The right and confident decisions always come from a place of inspiration, not of desperation Rosie woke up on Monday morning. Determined to leave her partner. The weekend was awful and she had enough. On Tuesday she told herself it...
How ‘facing the fear’ adds to resilience
Resilience is a set of skills that will help you through adversity and uncertain times. Being flexible, able to adapt without losing sight of what is important to you and keeping a positive mindset is the pay-off of resilience. Fear is the acronym for Future...
How to change a negative mindset into a positive one
How to change your mindset from negative to positive Negativity is a low vibrational energy. It doesn’t contribute to happiness, lightness and joy. How can you spot negativity? Last week I overheard a conversation from my neighbour’s balcony between two friends, Penny...
Why you focus more on understanding someone else than understanding yourself
Trying to understand others instead of understanding yourself is often an avoidance strategy to keep yourself safe. Safe from pain, confrontations and having to deal with difficult issues. It also offers a sense of security, being able to predict other’s behaviour....
Positive Attitude Start of your day
From a distance, I heard an alarm. It kept going and then I realised it was mine. I wasn’t with it. Still tired and sleepy. From the warmth and cosiness of my duvet, I reached out to push the snooze button. Mollie, my DDD (darling daughter dog) was snuggled up with...
Is happiness possible in times of Corona stress?
Esme was driving in her car to work. Crying her eyes out. Her head was pounding and heavy, her nose red and swollen and her sinuses full of yak. It was good she wore sunglasses, so she could pretend to be more or less ‘normal’. She wasn’t of course. The night before...
Six easy ways to deal with Corona Covid-19 stress
Top ways to deal with stress Interesting times, where we are thrown around in uncertainty. And no one can escape. No money, location, job title or importance can keep you safe. It all comes down to washing hands, keeping a distance, accept, love and trust. It might...
Three easy mindfulness practices for children
Mindfulness practice for children Mindfulness practice promotes mental health for kids and teenagers Growing up is a stressful experience. Hardships is part of life, from the moment you are born. Just the process of birth alone can be extremely traumatic. Babies get...
Stop stressing with this oh so easy reset button
How to reset your body after stress Xmas seems ages ago, but actually it is only 6 weeks or so before normal life took over again. And I know that for all of us, including you, the good old stress is kicking in together with tiredness and the tension and busy-ness of...
Jade, a tool to communicate with confidence
Communicate with confidence and clarity and you will be seen as confident and clever. You will get your way and there is no confusion. Jade is the tool that will help you to achieve that. Do you recognise that the more you say, the more muddled your communication?...
How cracked nipples made me more effective with timekeeping
How to keep track of time How discipline, timekeeping and routine kept me safe, sane and effective. There I was. Brand new mum. Sort of happy, but also very surprised. How to keep track of time? I had a little baby in my arms and my head knew he was mine, as he fought...
The art of goal setting: paralysing, inspiring, irritating or helpful?
Goal setting has proven to help people to achieve more. At the start of a new decade (hooray and how scary how time flies) it makes sense to a lot of people to spend some time on goal setting. The question is how helpful that is. Does it expand your horizon, invite...
Kickstart your morning with these 5 mindful and stress-free techniques
A guest blog about a morning routine that will kickstart your day by Chris. Still wondering how to boost your performance at work? Do you easily get tired in the first few hours of your shift? Are you the type of person who wants to have energy reserves even after...
How letting go of perfectionism creates the perfect result
Doris and David went on a course in clay pottery together. It was a 13-week course and each Wednesday night they took off together. The first night of class, the teacher explained what defined a perfect pot and announced that he was dividing the class into two groups,...
Xmas expectations about your or their Xmas
What are your Xmas expectations? Have you decided how to spend Xmas this year? Are you looking forward to the holiday season? Do you feel in control of the events? Celia is one of three sisters. A lovely lady, who is very caring and values her family. Four years ago...
How a rugbymatch saved her life – synchronicities create miracles
About 22 years ago an estate agent in Durban had an appointment at a property that was coming up for sale. The meeting was set 10 minutes before arriving late afternoon on Friday and the homeowner told Charmaine her 3 dogs would be locked away, so it was safe to enter...
Negotiating with the narcissist: top 5 tips
Narcissists are great communicators when it comes to defending themselves. But they are pants when it comes to interactive, respectful and positive communication because that requires empathy, consideration of other viewpoints and possibly compromises. None of which...
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