Can’t say no? The impact of people pleasing behaviour on relationships
YES, YES, YES that’s me, never able to say that other word….. Are you a chronic people pleaser? Are you desperate to gain other people’s approval? Are you neglecting your own needs? Making others happy through people pleasing can't be bad, can it? Erin was...
Embarrassed or amused? Choose the helpful response
Nobody is perfect and it is absolutely normal to fail. Sometimes, it happens again and again. Recently, I just looked back at some weeks and noticed how often I failed. And regardless what others were saying, I didn’t feel embarrassed. Because with embarrassment comes...
Coaching programme to find your mission and purpose
How to discover 'why you are here' and how to create your personal mission statement in 4 steps Step 1 Discover the authentic you. Who are you? What is typical you and what are you fundamental needs that are part of your personality? How do you play out your character...
Yes I suffered from Imposter Syndrome and this is how I got out
How to overcome Imposter Syndrome, when you are too busy hiding your secrets. The secret you were just lucky and not good at all. That you are good at misleading people and actually anxiously waiting to be discovered. It causes stress, it makes you work harder to...
7 unexpected benefits from decluttering
Predicted benefits of decluttering are empty shelves and spaces, but it is incredible how it impacted my mindset, habits and how I deal with life. Would you like to know how changing habits can be easy and fun? How often the pay-off of a new habit is more than you...
Pretend confidence: when your actions don’t match your feelings
Elsy came across as confident, but as with many confident people, her ‘inside’ wasn’t matching her ‘outside’. In other words, how she came across was not really how she felt. She kept herself afloat by using her manuals: instructions on how to behave, what to say and...
How to say no and build your confidence
Having the Confidence to Say No If you can’t say no, using the excuse that ‘that is just who you are’, you might be just running away from confrontations or feeling fear for being judged by other people. Both situations reflect a low level of confidence and...
How high performers take confidently control
Living life on autopilot Do you fly through your days? No time to think or make decisions? Action after action? Living life on autopilot Vera was a busy bee. One of these ladies you would phone if something needed to happen. ‘Ask a busy person and it will get done.’...
How a narcissist makes their victims become like them
A narcissist is aiming to crush the personality of their victim. They don’t want people around them who are critical, opinionated or in any way in the frame of mind to challenge them. They want their victim to feed them the Narcissistic Supply, which means they get...
7 typical text messages from a narcissist
In this article, you will discover 7 typical text messages from a narcissist, why they use this type of communication and how it can affect you. Narcissists aim to unsettle their victims in all sort of ways and text messaging is an excellent tool for that. It offers...
How to make the right decision with confidence?
Self confidence in decision making The right and confident decisions always come from a place of inspiration, not of desperation Rosie woke up on Monday morning. Determined to leave her partner. The weekend was awful and she had enough. On Tuesday she told herself it...
How ‘facing the fear’ adds to resilience
Resilience is a set of skills that will help you through adversity and uncertain times. Being flexible, able to adapt without losing sight of what is important to you and keeping a positive mindset is the pay-off of resilience. Fear is the acronym for Future...
Jade, a tool to communicate with confidence
Communicate with confidence and clarity and you will be seen as confident and clever. You will get your way and there is no confusion. Jade is the tool that will help you to achieve that. Do you recognise that the more you say, the more muddled your communication?...
Imposter Syndrome – the power of the little voice
Is this how you are thinking but wouldn't dare to share? ‘I am so different from who they think I am. They think I am good, but if only they knew...’ 'I am scared of being found out, feeling a fraud and waking up worried about my facade.' You think like someone who is...
What is Imposter Syndrome?
What is imposter syndrome and how to combat it There is a huge chance that you are amongst the 70% of people who have experienced at least once an episode of the Imposter Syndrome (IS). I did, in all my corporate jobs. Imposter Syndrome is a term that was first...
7 tips to overcome low self-esteem
If Robbie only had known what to do to overcome her low self-esteem... Robbie was a very skilful musician. She played the piano in all imaginable ways. Trained classically, any old hero from Mozart, Bach to Schubert was a piece of cake for her. She loved jazz and...
How to stop developing a burnout
Do you know those ‘restless’ types? Always keen to be ‘on the go’ with ants in their pants? Or ...... are you one of those? Annette was always rushing. Ants in her pants. Never being able to sit down calmly and enjoy the moment. When in the car, she leaned over...
Could do better – a seriously negative and demoralising remark
Undermine confidence How Polly got in the way of her own happiness. Polly was humming when she opened the letterbox. Xmas had been great, everybody was back into the swing of work and school and the new year looked all fresh and promising. Amongst the mail was a...
Darling column about Empty Nest Syndrome
The academic year is almost halfway and new students are feeling more at ease in their new situation. For parents and families it should be similar. But for some it is wishful thinking. It needs time and adaptation to find your way into the new dynamics of, what might...
How I knew I was on top of my confidence
What makes me feel confident A few weeks ago I was at a networking function. The way to behave is to be open, meet and greet the ones you know and especially the ones you don’t. There was this woman who I’d met before and I went up to here, saying ‘Hi, how are you?...
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